FYI: We Stayed Silent To Survive. And Now, We're Done.

FYI: We Stayed Silent To Survive. And Now, We’re Done.

FYI: Women stay silent to survive. However, allegations are necessary to get the process going. It’s what happens. Someone alleges that someone else did something. From there, an investigation is supposed to take place to determine if the allegations are founded or not. But we’re in a different world now. Now that a man who […]

No Means No

Folks on the internet are talking about a law in North Carolina that apparently gives an asshole who doesn’t understand the meaning of the word, no, the legal right to continue the sex act if the woman takes back consent. In other words, she has no right to say no after the act has begun. Everything […]

And The Walls Came Tumbling Down

Hear My Voice: No, Judge Low, Great Men DO NOT Rape

Attributing this to the Trump effect is too easy because it’s gone on far longer than the so-called new guy has been alive. And yet as evidenced by the videotape about kissing we’ve all seen, his behavior seems to give men cover for their own behavior,¹ as they assume all females appreciate their pathetic advances. But […]

assumptions made

When Assumptions Made Seek To Control Both The Message And The Survivor

It didn’t happen because she didn’t tell. The latest of the assumptions made by his surrogates is to suggest that sexual assault or harassment doesn’t happen if the survivor doesn’t tell. And yet, just this morning I listened to a report where a woman shared her own experience with this man saying that she told […]

Mother's Day

The Gaslighting of America

In the last few days, we’ve been inundated with revelations of alleged sexual assault regarding our male candidate running for President. Some women in the media are referring to the denigration by that man of his accusers as gaslighting. They seem to suggest that by virtue of his denial and denigration, he’s gaslighting these women. As […]

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This Reasonable Woman’s Perspective

I’ve always considered myself to be a reasonable woman. It used to be that I could listen to surrogates for the conservative party and perhaps disagree with something they said. I might even vehemently disagree, but a few years ago, when all the rape and pregnancy comments started, I had the sense that we were about to […]

20 Minutes of Rape

Another rape on a college campus, this time Stanford. In an article in the Washington Post, his morally bankrupt father referred to it as a “steep price to pay for 20 minutes of action.” Action? Is that what we’re calling rape now? Action? Would it have been rape in his estimation had it lasted 30 […]