No, Mika. Your Friend's Victims DO NOT Have To Listen To ANYTHING He Has To Say

No, Mika. Your Friend’s Victims DO NOT Have To Listen To ANYTHING He Has To Say

Oh, good night nurse. Mika Brzezinski apparently had some interesting things to say about the accusers of her friend and colleague who lost his job over alleged sexual harassment on her show, Morning Joe, charging that it’s the accusers’ role to enable us to “grow as a society.” (Think Progress). Is she kidding? What is it […]

Survivors: Enduring The Impossible

Survivors: Enduring The Impossible

As survivors, we spend our lives enduring the impossible. And the detailed allegations of men using their positions to sexually harass or assault both men and women, feels impossible to take in, no matter how encouraging it might be that the truth is now coming out. Making a distinction between the unwanted aggressive sexual behavior and […]

And The Walls Came Tumbling Down

Hear My Voice: No, Judge Low, Great Men DO NOT Rape

Attributing this to the Trump effect is too easy because it’s gone on far longer than the so-called new guy has been alive. And yet as evidenced by the videotape about kissing we’ve all seen, his behavior seems to give men cover for their own behavior,¹ as they assume all females appreciate their pathetic advances. But […]

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The Effects Of Passive Aggression

I’ve really come to the conclusion that passive aggression is rampant amongst humans. It can take many forms, sometimes focusing upon the passive side and sometimes the aggressive. Passive aggression is not easily dealt with, by anyone. It tends to be self-reinforcing so it’s difficult for those who behave this way to experience life any […]

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When Assumptions Made Seek To Control Both The Message And The Survivor

It didn’t happen because she didn’t tell. The latest of the assumptions made by his surrogates is to suggest that sexual assault or harassment doesn’t happen if the survivor doesn’t tell. And yet, just this morning I listened to a report where a woman shared her own experience with this man saying that she told […]

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The Gaslighting of America

In the last few days, we’ve been inundated with revelations of alleged sexual assault regarding our male candidate running for President. Some women in the media are referring to the denigration by that man of his accusers as gaslighting. They seem to suggest that by virtue of his denial and denigration, he’s gaslighting these women. As […]


This Reasonable Woman’s Perspective

I’ve always considered myself to be a reasonable woman. It used to be that I could listen to surrogates for the conservative party and perhaps disagree with something they said. I might even vehemently disagree, but a few years ago, when all the rape and pregnancy comments started, I had the sense that we were about to […]